All too true. All too sad.

Recognising it can also be an issue in itself, causing a lack of trust and acceptance, at face value, of generosity and caring.

Whilst I agree that it is important to be aware and careful not to be deceived, it is also important not to go to the opposite extreme and become wary of any good deed.

I have found that it has become almost impossible to do anything freely for anyone. It seems today that if an item or deed doesn't have a monetary cost, many people assume that there must be a catch - that the offerer has a deceitful personal agenda.

So, although I accept the truth and wisdom of this post, I do regret that not only is it too often a reality but what I feel is a much greater issue - that of its tendency to reduce trust.

I feel this way because without trust, how can we ever hope to truly care for and respect one another. I have tended throughout my life to follow the advice of Ernest Hemingway: "If you wish to discover whether someone is trustworthy, the best way is to trust them." (A paraphrase). It has cost me at times, whether in pain or money or both. However, I still prefer to take the risk, rather than live my life with the impression that I must be suspicious of any who offer me help or do we me a good deed or extend me a hand.

Perhaps I am naive. Perhaps I am foolish. I do know that what Bella says is reality. Somehow I just feel that unless I am aware of clear reason to be extra cautious, I'd rather be open and accept the risk.

Take care. Stay safe. ☮️