Brenda, I agree with your sentiment that we ought to accept difference and I applaud it.

However, Grammar provides the structural framework for a language and is not whatever any group or individual decide it should be.

Yes, I agree that how we are 'raised' or schooled or conditioned, where we live, who are those in our peer group, what is our family's social status, what level of education we have, whether we are encourage to read and do so and whether we are encourage to write and do so, are all factors that influence the way in which we will express ourselves.

I grew in a slum of sooty houses, domestic violence, foul language, snotty nosed chlldren in third and fourth hand-me-down clothes playing in grimy streets because the 4 roomed terrace houses (yes 4 roomed, *not* 4 bedroomed) in which they lived had no bathrooms, no hot water, one cold water tap and a toilet in a back yard of perhaps 6 square metres.

So, I understand that all too well.

However, although much of what happens in early life certainly will impact us for the remainder of it, that does not mean that there isn't much that we can change.

We don't have to swear at people just because they swear at us. We don't have to hate or physical abuse just because others do. We don't have to remain ignorant or continue to operate as we were conditioned if we choose not to do so. Yes, it may be difficult to break from our conditioning and we may not be able to do it entirely. In my view, that may not be desirable even if we could for it is a part of us.

My point is that as we mature we can, if we wish, choose to improve our own understanding and question what we have always taken for granted. Fate is only a mythical concept of human beings. There are myriad factors that influence what happens in our iives and I certainly agree that our early experiences play a significant role but it needn't be the dominant one.

Take care. Stay safe. ☮️

#BORC