I admire the sentiment here and the way in which you have expressed it.

I, however, no longer consider that 'forgiveness' is the positive trait such as it is seen.

Yes, there are times when one is hurt and it seems indisputable that whatever has caused this is down to someone else. - 'They' are to blame.

I don't believe in blame. To me, it serves no useful or productive purpose and certainly does not help to change whatever has happened nor, usually, the thoughts, character, nature, attitude or reasons for why the 'blamed' did whatever has hurt.

Yet, the reality is that no one is innocent. All of us are an amalgam of good/bad/indifferent, (for want of better terms). Our thoughts, behaviour, actions are always relative to context and qualitatively, can only be assessed according to culture, religion, value systems and all manner of understandings, mythology and learned notions of what is 'right' or 'wrong'.

We are all conditioned continually and continuously and whilst we may sometimes perceive aspects of that conditioning and be able to resist or change their effect on us, in the main we can do little about most of it because it is so insidious and bound up with the context of our lives.

It is for that reason, in the main, that I cannot 'blame'. Therefore, neither can I 'forgive'. For if their is no blame then there is no need for forgiving.

If humanity wishes to become better, my view is that it must seek to develop a habit of empathy to replace that of 'judging', which most of seem very quick in which to engage.

Nonetheless, as always, I find interest and meaning in what you write and the way in which you express it. It is always worth reading and it always causes me to examine my own thoughts and beliefs.

Take care. Stay safe. ☮️