It is good that there are those who are perceptive enough and/or have learned to 'read' situations and recognise how, so often, it is the main victim of a dysfunctional relationship that is blamed for its final break down or collapse.
Most societies are still controlled to the greatest extent by males. This has been the situation for most human societies since the earliest times. It is a point of considerable debate as to what extent biology and the pattern of evolution in technology and knowledge has contributed to this situation.
Naomi Wolf, Clementine Ford, Caitlin Moran & Paula Caplan are just some of those who have written well on this phenomenon. Domestic violence is also now an increasingly disturbing occurrence in societies. Perhaps it has always been as common but more hidden by misguided cultural norms and the lack of ways for the average person to communicate widely.
In my view, the reality is that both parties in the relationship suffer and that, with the exception of situations where one or both partners have very strong dysfunctional mental and/or personality disorders, (which perhaps are the same thing), blame of neither is appropriate.
The reality is that most of our societies are conditioned to see 'marriage' or its equivalent, i.e. seeking an intimate 'forever' relationship with another as being not only normal but highly desirable. Indeed, 'family' is often invoked as a symbol of the most desirable and respectable of social situation. Surprisingly, the extent of this conditioning has been highlighted by the recent moves and achievement of same-sex marriage.
However, although here and now I cannot give statistical support to my view, it is certainly clear that this ubiquitously held belief of how people ought to organise their lives, is not supported by reality. Divorce rates, multiple marriages, infidelity, domestic violence, destruction of self-esteem, orphaned or mentally harmed children, financial hardship and even homelessness and worse for older women are all testament to obvious defects in what is accepted as how most of us should live.
Some see this as a result of patriarchy and so it may be. My own view is that as relevant as this may be, it is simplistic. All human beings are conditioned, regardless of sex or gender. That conditioning is mostly insidious and often, by many, never recognised at all. So, when some talk of patriarchy as though it has been a conspiracy by men to subjugate and abuse women, I have to question that notion. As most reasonably intelligent people understand, correlation and causation are not the same.
So, for me, the content of your emotive and, I'm sure for many, confronting poem, highlights not only the injustice and harm that can and does often result from relationships too easily entered into buy also the very real need for wide discussion and questioning of whether this 'norm' which places often very immediate and short-lived, hormonally driven emotional attachment as being a reasonable basis to surrender ones autonomy. I consider this particularly important in regard to reducing and preferably eliminating the abuse of women in so many ways.
I will stop here because there is so much more I'd like to say but my comment is becoming a post ... I apologise to all those who abuse me for writing too much.
